Saturday Musings: Appearance Is Everything

I always wanted colorful clothing. I never thought about it much beyond that. When I began sewing, I added in the element of fit. Over time I began to see themes in the fabrics I chose, and considered those themes my aesthetic. So, color + fit + aesthetic = ? I thought it equaled something good, like I finally figured out how to Look Good and Have My Own Style and even Make Trends My Own.

And then tonight I was mistaken for a fifty-something year old woman, twice. By two different people in their fifties, so one expects they’d know what that looks like. What me-made was I wearing? A flared, silver, graffiti print skirt. Here I was thinking I was the Boston Betsey Johnson, and instead, I just looked as old as the lady herself.


I’m still on a work clothes kick, but this is yet more evidence that I need a makeover for my personal life. I’ve given up on meeting anyone special, but that’s no reason not to have dressy evening looks. And even the most fun work shirt is still a work shirt, and should not be a grab-and-go piece when I’m going out for dumplings with my friends.

A new wardrobe is just the tip of the visual overhaul I need to undergo in 2016. Because being mistaken for twenty years older than I actually am, AND being mistaken for the mother of grown (ie, twenty-something) people, does not work for me. I have no clue how I’m going to sew an age- and occasion-appropriate wardrobe, but it’s 100000000% urgently, desperately, needed. Like, yesterday.

If you have pointers or people whose style I can emulate/copy, please share! :)

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  1. OMG. That is horrible. I have no ideas about how to achieve your goal, but I wanted to let you know that I feel your pain. If I come up with something/anything I will come back and post.
    Consider this a big hug.

    PS-I am one of those 50+ women and I don’t think you look anywhere near my age.

    1. Awww, thank you Elle! I can use any and all help, definitely. I wouldn’t mind looking 50-something if I were 50-something (or 60-something, hah), I just want to enjoy the age I am now, you know?

  2. Maybe you could find some pictures of women that are approximately your age, body type and dressed in a way that fits your lifestyle. Or, if you see someone on the street and you like what they’re wearing, remember it when you are getting ready to sew.

    Then you’ll get some ideas of outfits to work towards. I think this is a process we all go through. It takes a while, but it can be fun, too.

    But the most important think is to feel comfortable. You do you!

    1. Thank you for the tips, Chris! I did start a Pinterest board for looks that might be a bit age appropriate (and realized I have some patterns and fabrics that actually ‘work’ for this goal). It’s definitely a process, I’m just being pouty, hah.

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